The Beginner's Guide to Red Pockets
When it comes to wedding gifts, things can get a little tricky due to cultural differences. Likely you are a friend or workmate of the couple, and they linked you here because of a potentially awkward conversation. In which case hello, and welcome!
In this article we will be discussing Asian wedding gifts - what to give, how much to give and when to give it.
In this article we will be discussing Asian wedding gifts - what to give, how much to give and when to give it.
Red Pockets
In Chinese culture, a red pocket is a monetary gift given during special occasions such as weddings and holidays. The custom originated in China during the Qin dynasty circa 210 BC, and today exists in countries with ethnic Chinese populations. The red colour symbolises good luck.
At weddings, the amount offered is usually intended to cover the cost of the attendee as well as signify goodwill to the newly weds. Here in Australia, that cost normally starts at approximately $100 per person. In other words, it's the gift of choice at Chinese weddings.
At weddings, the amount offered is usually intended to cover the cost of the attendee as well as signify goodwill to the newly weds. Here in Australia, that cost normally starts at approximately $100 per person. In other words, it's the gift of choice at Chinese weddings.
But What About Gift Registries?
This is an American cultural artefact, and a very recent one too.
Historically, gifts weren't socially expected at weddings unless you were family or really good friends. Then in 1924, an upscale department store called Marshall Field's (now Macy's) cleverly created a wedding registry to encourage guests to purchase luxury goods, such as fine china and silverware. It's been a thing ever since.
Saying it's a customary tradition is like saying shopping at David Jones is a customary tradition.
Historically, gifts weren't socially expected at weddings unless you were family or really good friends. Then in 1924, an upscale department store called Marshall Field's (now Macy's) cleverly created a wedding registry to encourage guests to purchase luxury goods, such as fine china and silverware. It's been a thing ever since.
Saying it's a customary tradition is like saying shopping at David Jones is a customary tradition.
What This Means to You
Weddings are big expensive events. So cash gifts are accepted cultural practice and makes sensible, economic sense. Yet asking for money is still a major faux pas and social taboo. So how to get around it?
You may notice on your wedding invitation a cute poem playfully asking for cash instead of gifts. That's because the couple will NEVER directly ask you for cash. Of course not - that's tacky! But there will definitely be a strong preference towards cash. But if you insist, they will nevertheless appreciate your gift of too-delicate-to-use crockery and frangipani-infused scented soy candles.
The following are some FAQs about Red Pockets.
You may notice on your wedding invitation a cute poem playfully asking for cash instead of gifts. That's because the couple will NEVER directly ask you for cash. Of course not - that's tacky! But there will definitely be a strong preference towards cash. But if you insist, they will nevertheless appreciate your gift of too-delicate-to-use crockery and frangipani-infused scented soy candles.
The following are some FAQs about Red Pockets.
How Much Do I Gift the Couple?
The minimum for a guest at a wedding is $100. Depending on your relationship with the couple, it's at your own discretion above that.
What if I'm Invited with a Guest? What if I'm the +One?
No hard and fast rules on this, but usually your date covers for you. As a good date yourself, you are welcome to contribute. Fresh lobster don't pay for themselves.
What's the Right Time to Gift the Couple at the Wedding?
As you walk into the reception centre, there will be an attended table to greet and welcome guests. This is where you sign your well wishes to the couple in a Guest Book or Signing Cloth (traditional). On that same table is a Wishing Well. Place your red pocket or envelope gift in there. Congratulations, you have successfully gifted the happy couple.
In the end, the thing about gifts is that it's the thought that counts most.
In the end, the thing about gifts is that it's the thought that counts most.
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For more wedding customs, check out Asian Traditions. Want to know what your gift of cash is paying for? Check out Catering.
For more wedding customs, check out Asian Traditions. Want to know what your gift of cash is paying for? Check out Catering.